All around us we are being impacted by the good and bad that is out there. Teachers are everywhere, even good leaders are the best of teachers. Given the opportunity, we are all teachers at some point each day, and the best of teachers are also impactful leaders.

Last month within an eight-day period I learned 3 lessons that were so similar in meaning I felt impressed to write about them.  These lessons apply not only to our children but anyone we might come in contact with.

A powerful teacher does not tell their students what to do, rather they help them understand their reasoning, teach reciprocal respect, and recognize the worth of each individual, all of which allows the choice for wisdom to flourish. 

1. Reasoning the Why

Several weeks ago I was impressed with an interaction between my grandson and daughter-in-law. We were sitting down to dinner when my grandson started putting his feet on the table, his plate to be specific. He is 23-months-old and was determined to put his feet up. She took his feet off his plate and asked him to not put his feet on the table.

Immediately he pushed his feet back up on the table and this is what caught my attention. My daughter-in-law very firmly explained, “This is where your food will go, we are all eating our food from the table, if your feet are on the table it makes everything dirty. Do you see the dirt on your feet? Do we want that dirt to go in our mouths? It could make us sick.” Then without another prompting, my grandson moved his feet off the table and didn’t try to put them up again.

I know it seems uncommon to be able to reason with a 2-year-old, but when the reasoning teaches and explains the “why” the outcome can be different. How often do we make demands for correction instead of explaining the logic behind it? Yes, he is almost two-years-old, but he listened, understood, and learned.

2. Reciprocal Respect

Several days after observing this interaction with my grandson, my husband and I watched a video which built upon the first lesson.

A grandmother was taking her granddaughter for the day to help her daughter who had recently delivered a baby. The struggle to keep her granddaughter in her car seat was real. She tried everything from bribery to forceful coercion. She struggled to get her granddaughter to stay in her car seat to be safe for the drive home. Over and over she would buckle her in to find her out of her car seat before she got back into the car. In frustration, this grandma pleads a silent prayer to know how to teach her granddaughter to stay in her car seat.

The words that came to her mind were — “teach her” — to which she took the time to explain the “why?” behind her request to stay buckled in her car seat. If the why behind any request is love the reciprocal respect will come naturally.

For example, understanding that God gives me commandments because he loves me makes it easier to obey them because I love him. If we prayerfully consider how to help our children understand our requests and rules are not because we want to be mean, but because we love them and want to protect them they will be more likely to listen and obey.  Mutual respect allows us to be more effective in our teaching and leading of others.

Recognizing Worth

The last lesson I learned was just a few days later. I was listening to President Henry B. Eyring tell a story from many years ago when he was a young father. His then 7-year-old son was jumping on his bed with such fervor that President Eyring felt the bed might break.

In his flash of frustration, he took his son by his shoulders and lifted him to eye level. The words immediately came to his mind “You are holding a great person.” The realization took him by surprise and he gently lowered his son back to the floor, apologizing for his actions.

Everyone has within them a divine nature, we are of infinite worth to God. When we feel the frustration creep in while teaching our little ones, remembering to recognize their greatness helps to put their actions into perspective.

Our responsibility to teach and raise this generation is a great one. Taking the time to teach the “Why” rather than making demands helps bring a greater understanding. Learning reciprocal respect does not make us appear weak, but wise in recognizing the role respect plays in our relationships. And finally, seeing others as God see’s them is sometimes the hardest but most important step in teaching.  Children can sense the way we feel about them, and are more likely to listen and respond when they know we truly care.

How have you learned to be effective in your teaching?  What ways have you found to make an impact in the lives of others?


[1] Eyring, Henry B. (2017) Retrieved from

I’m a wife, mother, friend, and storyteller. I have a love for learning, giggling with my grandson and tandem biking with my husband. I believe wisdom goes beyond being smart or having basic knowledge. It is the culmination of experiences that help us become. While each of our challenges may be unique, we have the opportunity to choose how we will react, learn and grow. My journey has taught me that I don’t have all the answers, but I do have a voice to share what I’ve learned. Life can either teach us or defeat us – the choice is ours.

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7 thoughts on “How to Make an Impact: 3 Powerful Lessons Learned”

  1. I love this! A few years ago someone said something profound in a Sunday school lesson… “Your kids could have been your parents.” As I thought about this I realized that we are all Heavenly Father’s children. Just because we have been on this Earth longer than our children doesn’t mean they don’t have amazing potential. We are privileged to be parents and we should treat our kids with the respect that we would want for ourselves.

    1. That is a wonderful way of looking at our relationship with our kids! We learn from them just as much if not more than they learn from us! We are all here to learn. Great insights!

  2. Thank you for sharing this! One thing I always admired in my mother’s parenting is that she didn’t just tell us “no”. She always gave a reason. As a teenager, I never really went behind her back and I credit this to her being transparent in the way your daughter in law was to your grandson with his feet.

    1. Davi it sounds like your mom is a great parent. I’m sure you are grateful for her example that carries over as you raise your family now. Thanks for sharing!

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